Is Your Partner Embarrassed Being With You?

Saw a question posted by someone on AskMen.com to Dr Love about his girl who is comfortable with PDA (Public Display of Affection) when in public but when it is in some domains such as friends etc, she holds it back… So what does it actually mean???

 

I have dealt with a scenario where my friend was browsing his gf’s profile online with her being beside him on the bed… and one pic that caught his attention was a picture labelled ‘the good memories’… she apologised but it made him wonder, probably she did loved that guy wholeheartedly that even when she said my friend is her life, she still held on to the past and it haunted him forever that he could never be loved the same way, which turn out true as she mentioned to him…

 

Another guy friend of mine, hid his relationship status with his girlfriend from the public domain because he was embarrassed of acknowledging the gal as his gf… she saw one of the inbox message in which another hot gal actually questioned him on why is he being with such a fugly gal when he is truly a hot guy who could get any gal he wants… the gal was disappointed to realise that the person still existed and was talked to amidst her insulting his bf’s gf!!!!

 

Then came the issue where one of my friend was telling me about her boyfriend who is keeping her hidden in the closet… like in a showcase… He is a steward who even make the guys and girls drool alike… totally hot!!! My friend on the other hand, is an average girl next door. What hurts her is that, her boyfriend could put up a million pictures of him and raking in so many comments from other  hot gals and the pictures that he put of them together (probably just 1% of number of pics of him alone showing his six-pack and looks) is miserably sorry to look at… To make matters worst, some pictures were taken on dates with other gals and she can see this gals coming and showing their appreciation to the pictures… Of course, this gals were given high spotlight before the relationship began as these gals were definitely hot and it was a pride to showcase their company with him… Which he deleted after they got together but as a rebel method, even her pic were not showcased…

 

The last one, before I go to my conclusion, is a story bout my guy friend who dated a hottie, both of them were avid clubbers, but they rarely met due to distance, he in Penang, she in KL… He used to see her displaying her party scene pictures with all the hot guys, really up close and personal shots that many would envy, when they got together, the clubbing scene was pretty mundane, she didn’t dress up as hot as she did on other occasions, and there was once an incident that it was his birthday and he wanted to dance really close to her but she kept inching apart and that got him hurt, when he just seeked a little explanation, he was yelled in front of everyone… months down the road, he realised that the parties has been going on behind his back all this while and what crushed him was seeing pictures of her dressing so gorgeously hot, revealing and inviting, proven on other pics of hers being the way she was before they got together…

 

You got the scenario so far??? Here’s my take on this, your partner is simply extremely embarrassed to be with you!!! In all the cases, one thing is common, one from the two is a hawt stuff while the other is just below par… The below par would do anything to not lose the hawt stuff but on the other hand, the hawt stuff is not single bit bothered!!! This is common, the dominance placed on relationship which overflows to continuum, it is inevitable people!!! The below par would display the hawt stuff on every opportunity, even before being asked, it’s like ‘see I have my most precious treasure and it’s him/her…’ while the hawt stuff would disassociate unnecessary linkage to safeguard reputation and to keep their options open…

 

My bit of advise would be simple, if you are in any of the above situations, talk it out with your partner, sometimes, things that seems so mountainous to us are just small matters to another, talking and letting them know what is hurting you, is probably the best way… and if after talking to your partner, you do not seem to gain positive results, then walk out from the relationship, because if you really did mean a lot to the other person, it will be acted upon immediately…

 

Do not in any circumstances try to pursue it further because the result would be much more damaging to you emotionally, you see, the hawt stuff has nothing to lose, two weeks down the road, they might just go thru their list and have life back as usual, like your presence is never realised, your absence will not be missed when there are ample better opportunities that comes without frills of relationship… While you will be sorrow filled and hoping for things to turn out ok, when in fact, they never would… it will be far more damaging to realise that while all this time you were trying to work things out, your partner has sailed and moved on far beyond the horizon, that would kill your hope which is a good thing but the emotional toil would be unbearable for another long run. What could’ve taken you just a month to get over perhaps will end up taking one year due to your never-ending pursuit!

 

So lay back, put it behind and move on, IMMEDIATELY!!! There is no one stopping you from living your life, go on, have your parties, meet new people and do anything necessary to get over the hawt stuff, because even if you do, the hawt stuff is already doing that!!! Once you are cheated on, it never ends, so don’t believe it when the hawt stuff tries to tell you (if they do bother actually), that it was just innocent escapades, they are NOT!!! You are immaterial and don’t feel sorry for yourself, accept it and elevate yourself, if you are ugly, seek cosmetics help… if you are fat, lose weight… if you are poor, work hard for the money… Do anything necessary to emerge as the hawt stuff…

 

For all you know, just like you, who is hurt to see the person move on like you are totally worthless, unwanted and seeing them having a great time ignoring your existence amidst countless calls and messages… this might just turn around and make the hawt stuff realise that ‘shite, i am about to loose her for good… she is not a loser when other guys are in fact flirting and hitting on her, when they are displaying her pictures together with them’ and who knows, by then you might have been comfortable being without the hawt stuff when other hawt stuff are in fact proud of you!!! If someone is embarrassed being with you, save them the misery and be with someone who would be proud of you… You are a great person and don’t let anyone pull you down, hold your chin up knowing that someone else out there takes you as their universe, you know the pain, appreciate the other person and let him/her smile…